Who was I before you? Who would I be without you? You have given me life inside my soul I never knew I had, I have strength I never knew I had. You keep me alive, you bring out my biggest fears. You make me want to try, and be everything that I never had the motivation to be. I feel stronger with you, I feel ready and hopeful, and able to get things organized and set right. I want to finally do the right thing, I want to be prepared and successful. I feel I have a huge mountain to climb, and i am in a huge mud puddle, sliding down with every few steps I take. I can't get out of it, it brings this depression that has me worrying about things I know I can get through. I know I can rely on God to pull me through so that I can be everything for you, that I need to be. Truthfully Kaylin, I am terrified.. I am afraid that I am the only supporter you will have in life, and that weight crushes down on me everyday when I see the huge mud puddle I am standing in. When I was young, Nana and my Dad weren't able to support me like they wanted too, and I lived with your great grandparents for a long time (Mimi and Pawpaw), they are the greatest people. I was so blessed to have them in my life, they saved me from a really bad childhood and gave me a good one, a normal one, they showed me love and made sure I was doing my best in school, I wish you could know them yourself, but they see you now, and Mimi is even saving money for you for when you're older, they smile every time I bring you over, and they love watching all the crazy things you do. They aren't going to be around when you are older, but just know that they love you so much, and they are the two greatest people ever, and they are going to be two amazing guardian angels you are going to have. Another thing, I don't talk about my dad, I know you might want to know him sometime in your life, but I want you to know that he is really not a good person to be around. He means well, but his mind is all wrong, and no matter how much your going to want him in your life, I think the best thing is for him not to be there. He hurt me a lot as a child and he doesn't remember a thing, he has a hard time remembering the truth, and when I say its for the best not to know him, I really do mean that. I will let you decide, but just know that some people have minds that are very messed up, it's a disorder that no one truly understands, but I will let you decide if that's what you want. Also, your Nana and I have a hard time seeing eye to eye, and don't be surprised if she lets you down quite a bit, she did that a lot to me as a child and just as much to me as an adult, I just want you to be cautious, I had grandma and grandpa to help me, and I'm afraid your dad and I's mother and father are a bit disappointing, but your going to have two amazing parents, so I hope that will be enough. I want so much for you babe, I want you to accomplish every goal you set for yourself, no matter how silly, or no matter how much I don't believe it's right, I want you to achieve it, and be smart, be smarter than me. I want you to explore this world that God has given to us, while we are here. He made it for us, and I want you to get to know him yourself, and know how great his mercy is. You know, when I was pregnant with you, your daddy and I were talking in the car , describing all the features we wanted you to have, your hair blonde, your eyes like mine, your nose and body like your dads, and when you were born it was like he was listening to that, because you were even better than anything we could have ever imagined. I would lay in bed at night and your hiccups or kicks would lull me too sleep. You made me feel at ease, and comfortable when you were close by, almost as if my heart was in my arms when I held you, and when you weren't with me, I felt like I couldn't feel anything until you were back by my side. You hold every single emotion of mine in your being, and you don't even know it. Its love I can't explain, and feelings that come from me that I've never felt. Your tiny fingers in mine, when you hold your two little hands on my cheeks and look at me with those little green eyes, i see you growing up way before I am ready. You are so incredibly smart, you learn more and more each and every day. Its hard to know one day, I won't have that little hand in mine. I won't be able to have you by my side every single moment of the day. Even though you test the crap out of me sometimes, I know that these little moments are so precious, I feel like they just fly away as soon as they come. You are talking so much these days, you call me mommeh, something you just started calling me out of nowhere instead of mommy. You tell me your favorite color is green, you are a picky eater and touch nothing but chicken nuggets and french fries and the small odds and ends of junk food. You love watching curious George and caillou, you love to jump, it's so cute to watch your little curls bounce up and down. You love your back scratched, and you are learning your abc's and colors, you tell me you are a "big girl" and you want to do most things by yourself. you pee'd in the potty two days ago, your daddy and I are so proud of you!
Kaylin, I want you to know that if your Daddy and I fight, or get mad, just know that we will always love each other, and if anything does ever happen to us, we want you to know how much you mean to us, you are the reason we breathe each and every day. We will do anything we can for you, we will provide for you and sacrifice for you. I hope to teach you so much and hope that you will live for God, be his miracle, tell people about him. I am trying to learn more, I want to be so much better than I was. In life you make mistakes, and that's okay, your going to make tons and tons of mistakes, but as long as you learn from them, and better your life from them, you will be okay. There are going to be people in your life that are going to hurt you, and use you, and take so much from you, but don't let that discourage you. I feel that if you keep smiling and let others see how lovely your soul is, they will see how strong you are, even if you are crying inside, but don't forget to let that cry out sometimes, come to me, or a good friend and let us know how your feeling because you can't keep the hurt inside. Don't let men take advantage of you, I fell in love at 15, and gave him my world, all of it, only to find out 6 years later how wrong he was for me. God has someone special for everyone, don't give in to the first guy who tells you he loves you. YOU are worth more than that babe, you need to have pride in yourself, and save your self for who God has for you, because when you find that man, you will know it, you will feel it more than the first. Love isn't giving yourself to a man, when a man proves himself to you, and wants to give you a life forever, and loves God, and wants what you want, and isn't afraid of a family, or commitment, and works hard for you, does little things that are special to you, remembers your birthday, and wants to know our family...THATS the man God wants for you, and he's out there, I promise...you just have to be patient and wait for him. I truly pray with my whole heart that I will be able to be with you your whole life, but life is uncertain, and with that, I write this just in case I can't. You don't know how scared I am that I won't be able to be there for every little moment you experience, but just know that if I can't be, I will be in your heart forever, I will always be watching over you, protecting you, and guiding you to all the right things in your life. Things happen that we have no control over, and when God calls us home, thats the end, and then we go to live in paradise with God, and there is no fear or hurt in heaven, only happiness and love, and I want you to be happy no matter who leaves your life unexpectantly, cause your Daddy and I gave our lives to God, and that's where we will be. I want to be your best friend, and the best mother I can be, your not always going to get the things you want, and most of the time, I'm going to know what's best, and it's not going to be what you want at that time, but just trust me when I tell you I know what I'm talking about. I hope to be with your Daddy forever, we had you before we were married and it was something I ask forgiveness for all of the time, I don't want you to marry before you are ready, but I want you to find the love of your life, and have a good time in your life before you settle down, and have babies. Your Nana and I and your great grandma Sheila all had kids young, break that cycle, wait..please wait because yes having you was the best thing in my life, but it also was the hardest thing to go through, and I lost ALOT of people that I never thought I'd lose, all because I became a mommy. I would choose it every time because now I have you, but I should have waited, finished school and then planned a life with your Daddy. I made my life so much harder than it had to be. I hurt so many people and made so many wrong choices that I can't take back now, and it hurts me every single day, but I learned, and I grew up, and I now know what not to do, and I am so much stronger from it. You are such an amazing person, I see your beautiful personality, and your smile makes it hard for me to get mad at you. Every time I try to get mad, you laugh at me and I forget why I'm even mad (something you acquired from your dad).
I love you so much Kaylin Grace, and I am going to try my hardest to do everything I can so you are safe and happy, and successful. I am always going to be there, and I hope you will always be able to come to me when you need that someone to be there, I hope to make you proud, and have your support through everything. You couldn't do anything to make me not be there, I will support you even if you and I disagree, and I will love you forever, even when I am with Jesus in heaven, I will never stop loving you, and that is something I always promise you. Talk to me and your dad, be open with us, and don't be afraid to ever tell us something, because no matter how bad it is, we will get through it. Just let us know! One day I will give this too you and I pray that you will hear all of these things a million times before I do, and I hope to have a big house someday, and lay it on your bed for graduation, or maybe your 16th birthday, I don't know, that's still at least 14 years away, but time is going so fast now, I know that will be here in a heart beat. Don't be afraid to dream, let your heart love, and be a free spirit, help people, and love people, even the ones that hurt you. Jesus gave his life so that you can live, tell others of his grace, live by him, and learn his words, don't get discouraged but be encouraged by all the people that disagree, because they need God more than ever. He is there Kaylin, all you have to do it feel him, ask him into your heart and he will show you. He forgives and he will direct you to the right places as long as you trust in him. Last of all, don't be afraid to step out of your comfort zone and do something your afraid of " something not dangerous.." but maybe sing in front of a large crowd, or run in a marathon, or something that gives you those butterflies when you think of doing it. When you do those things, later in life you will be happy that you did them, and it will show the strength within you. I am going to make you financially stable, I just have to learn myself right now, but I will, and we are going to be smart with money, saving and preparing for life in the future. You are going to have a great life, and I will pray constantly that your father and I will be able to show you, and help you along the way. You are a beautiful person, strong willed, a perfectionist, and I can't wait to learn more about you, I look forward to watching you grow, don't ever forget that I'm here for you and most of all, don't ever forget that I love you.
